How to Change Your Life and Find Freedom!

We’ve been “Living the Dream” for 2 years now. We’ve been travelling full time, seeing the world and spending most of our time together as a family while hardly working, other than on the blogs. We weren’t rich, we were a very normal family struggling to make ends meet and actually classified as “low income” through my choice to quit work and be a mum. We made a decision, things needed to change.

Before you read on I’ll tell you that this post was written 3 years ago. We’ve actually been living a life of complete freedom for over 5 years now, but I’ll leave this post as it was originally written. Spoilers : These 5 years have been amazing, we have a good income, we’re very happy to live this way, as digital nomads, we paid the deposit on the house in Romania but the sale never went through, everything worked out fine.

Look What’s Possible!

Two years ago we made our choice, we jumped off the conventional living merry-go-round and had a change of life.

At that time what we wanted was more family time and endless travel. Travel had been a life-long passion for us and we saw it as a great way to educate our children and live a more interesting, connected life. Our best option back then was to save like crazy, sell almost everything and set off from Australia into the world for a year or three of budget backpacking, as a family. It worked out beautifully.

It’s what we did and we had a blast visiting 20+ countries and 4 continents over the last 2 years. We also got to live in London for 10 months, a city we thought we could never afford, on just one salary between 4 people. This week we’re buying a house, in a beautiful village in a European country, where we’ll wake to birdsong and green meadows, and still, we don’t have a job. We’ll still travel for at least half of the year, but we’ll have somewhere to call home when we need it.

Things have changed for us, we’re happier, more at peace and more connected as a family. We’ve changed and so has our outlook.

We’re Free and We Love This New Lifestyle, You Can Start the Change Today!

Freedom in life involves greater financial stability and a lot of dis-attachment from material possessions. That dis-attachment inevitably leads to further financial freedom.  Don’t we all want to spend more time with our kids, have more fun, live our dreams and spend more time enjoying our short and precious lives?

Here’s how we’ve made changes, you can too.

1. Stop With The Interior Design!

We’re told we should care about having a cool home, the sort of thing you might see in a magazine. We all have our own interpretations of that, some, like me, go for Asian inspired eclectic to suit the image we want to portray, some modern minimalist, some homely comfort, but I think most people, women in particular, have the  interior designer gene.

We buy expensive cook wear, furniture and decorations believing that only the best will do. What are we trying to prove? Who are we trying to impress? Our real friends take us as we are, our kids don’t care what furnishings we have and the marketers love us as we spend and spend.

A sub section of point 1 would be stop caring what people think of your outward appearance.

Fancy haircuts, new clothes, fashionable shoes, manicures and jewelry I used to love them, I was normal, probably just like you.

Now, so long as I’m clean, warm enough, not naked and don’t look too much like a bag lady, I don’t care and my family still love me.

We all have far too many clothes. I don’t even need all the clothes in my backpack, stop buying and start using, wear clothes ’till they wear out, mend rather than discard at the first hole.

Charity shops have amazing bargains, often new, unworn designer labels. Real people don’t care what’s on your back. Start your own fashion!

A long time ago I spent a fortune on the latest fancy nail fad, a guy friend said to me ” Do you think we really care about that?” His comment has stayed with me for 20 years.

2.You Don’t Need.

Shopping is not supposed to be recreation. You do not need the perfect thingum for every single task or occasion. Making do works well.

You do not need to buy all that stuff. What each person considers essential will obviously vary enormously but you can live without most things.

Our essentials were our 4 backpacks and the people carrying them, now, in a domestic rather than hotel environment, we’ve had to buy a few things, but surprisingly little. As point 1 (above) is now firmly in my mind, it’s cost us next to nothing.

3. A Bigger Home Isn’t Necessarily a Better Home.

Cut your housing costs by downsizing dramatically. We lived very happily in a one bedroom apartment in London, a big change from a 4 bedroom sprawling Queensland home. We didn’t miss the extra space at all. We have less stuff, less stuff needs less storage furniture, less furniture means more space.

Utility bills are much lighter on the wallet when you’re powering a smaller space.

Need I mention how much less cleaning effort is required? Cleaning is a waste of your precious time, you could be having fun with your kids, starting a business, anything other than cleaning.

4. But You Need a Garden, Right?

Do you?

I always thought I did, I love to grow things and producing our own food was one of the ways we saved money to get this ball rolling but now, do I miss it? No.

We had a beautiful park and the River Thames just footsteps away from our front door, we’re more than happy to get our nature fix running around on grass that somebody else mows.

I have a dear friend who sold up to live full time on a boat. She said growing things used to be “Her soul.” She’s never missed it since the day the sea became her back yard.

5. Renting or Buying.

Owning your own home can be a great big fat millstone around your neck.

We still own our home in Australia, we have that financial back-up but lodgers are paying the mortgage rather than us. Maybe it’s easy for us to say, having our feet well up the property ladder, but renting gives you more freedom.

Renters can up-sticks and move on when the contract is up, they have no maintenance costs and no emotional investment in a property.

6. Cut Transport Costs and Your Carbon Footprint.

Do you really have to own a car? Maybe you could live somewhere where you don’t need a car instead. That’s our choice.

London public transport has made us car free, fitter, happier, greener and better off.

Buy a bike, ( secind hand, sell it or give it away when you no longer need it) walk more, run more.

Shopping less will cut your transport needs immediately.

7. Work Towards Your Goals, Not Because You Have To.

Working hard to save money for a particular dream feels so much nicer than the month by month, year by year hamster wheel of working to pay for a lifestyle that constantly needs to be upgraded.

The drive for career progression has gone for us, instead we’re working for maximum financial return within the shortest possible time-frame to make us 100% free again. If that means working 7 days a week for a while, that’s fine. As my husband said, you can look at it two ways, that he’s worked almost solidly for the last month or that he’s worked only one month of the last 12. He prefers description 1.

Another update to this post. That last paragraph is a direct contradiction to the post I published yesterday about hating being stuck in London by a normal domestic and working reality in 2018. There are reasons, the biggest one is that we now have TOTAL freedom in our travelling lifestyle and choices. He doesn’t need to work now at all and we’ve become very used to it. Yes it’s taken one heck of a lot of hard work, there have been failures and set backs along the way but we kept on plugging away and eventually we got there. There is nothing better than freedom.