The boys and I are starting our family adventure in Malaysia early with a bit of single parent travel, we’re travelling without Dad, he’ll join us once he’s got the house, car and cat dealt with.
We’ve changed the dates on our Air Asia flights, brought them forward, and payed the difference in price between the two days. That’s a really good service for a budget airline, we’re impressed.
You know I said we were leaving in about three months?
Make that three weeks!
Travelling without Dad. I’m Brave, Right?
No, not really, I’m secretly quaking in my boots, it’s all a bit big and scary, but I’ve done it before and it was fine.
Last year, in the UK, we took advantage of the late deals on offer and took ourselves on a bargain trip to Florida for a couple of weeks. Just the two children and I. We had an amazing holiday, touring the theme parks and the Kennedy Space Center, one of our best. We couldn’t have taken the deal if we’d had to wait for all four of us to be available, work was in the way.
Travelling without Dad wasn’t a problem at all, it actually improves the holiday for the kids in a way, one grown up focuses totally on them, two grown ups have their own agenda, single parent travel is more child focused and is a lot of fun.
We’re used to spending plenty of time as a threesome, I’m a chef’s widow, it goes with the territory, so missing Dad wasn’t a big issue and there was always Skype in the evenings.
It is a really empowering experience being a solo travelling parent, it was a big deal for me to drive around Florida in a great big car, sorting out hotels, money, tickets, not getting lost, all by myself. I know I’m a grown up and I should be able to do that sort of thing with my eyes shut, but you do become quite reliant on your partner after a decade or so of marriage. It was good for me and lovely to share that time with my children. They really step up and become Mum’s little helpers when they are the men of the trip.
I wouldn’t do it on any sort of vacation, if we were going somewhere outdoors-y, where playing in nature was a big feature, the boys and I would like Dad there, he’s more fun for all that running around but we will be in towns and cities for these few weeks, we’ll be exploring, visiting attractions, museums and shops. That’s Mum stuff, I can handle that.
I keep reminding myself of all the amazing single Mums out there, exploring the world with their children, people like Lainie at Raising Miro and Theodora at Escape Artistes. I bet they’re not scared!
So off we go to Malaysia, a country I’ve never visited before, to explore and hang out for a few weeks ’till Dad joins us. Stay with me lovely people, I may need you to talk to.
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Saturday 30th of August 2014
Will let you know... I am about to do same with 4 kids :) Off to NZ though so at least the language is English!
Saturday 15th of February 2014
I think you are soooo brave! It's not just the sole travel part, but the fact that you don't really get a break when alone with the kids for so long - there's no-one to take over and give you some alone-time to relax etc. Anyhow, I'm sure it'll go well, and I'll be following along reading to see how it goes :) Enjoy Malaysia!
Saturday 15th of February 2014
No, not really Sheralyn, I've never had a break of any kind, they don't go to school or day care, so I don't know what having a 'break" is like! Malaysia was about 8 months ago now, we've been travelling ever since.
Tuesday 30th of July 2013
Great article... but guess what? We're out there, sometimes scared too. You are doing great.
Friday 7th of June 2013
I've missed this post! It's great to see you travel safe and are enjoying your first days in Malaysia!
Saturday 1st of June 2013
This will be a good experience for all. I think we forget how brave and strong we are and can be. Who knows once you reunite, you will all have a greater appreciation for each other. Have fun and make the most of it.